tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32847998253280562602024-03-07T17:35:12.492-05:00Thoughts InspiredFrom the most important to the mundane, I have attempted to use words to describe my experiences, thoughts, and emotions.
It is simply my journey. One that I welcome you to join.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger238125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-68853205149145807882014-01-28T20:54:00.001-05:002014-01-28T20:54:17.071-05:00writing againToday one of my dear dear friends sent me a message that said: I miss your blog. <br />
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And so I decided, maybe it was time to make this a little more regular again. <br />
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Instagram has been my social media of choice as of late. I can spend just hours and hours looking at gorgeous photos that others have posted. And work on figuring out ways that I can look at and represent the world more beautifully. <br />
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And then I forget my writing. I forget what a release this actually is for me. How I love to think and type and think and type and not think of much else.<br />
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And so I will write again. And I thank my friend for reminding me. And for encouraging me. <br />
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Sometimes that just exactly what you need.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-86186645164899218262013-08-18T00:15:00.002-04:002013-08-18T00:15:34.127-04:00coffin undergroundI live in a small coffin underground<br />
is what I tell everyone<br />
<br />
Because my apartment is the size of a small hotel room<br />
smaller<br />
<br />
And there is no such thing<br />
as natural sunlight<br />
<br />
There is a foot of counter space<br />
and if two things are left on the ground<br />
it looks a mess<br />
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My sink is made for gnomes<br />
and I had to loose weight to fit into my bathroom<br />
<br />
But I love my coffin underground<br />
because it's mine<br />
<br />
I can come home and everything is exactly where I left it<br />
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And it's quiet<br />
and peaceful<br />
and it holds all the things that I hold dear<br />
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It's the one time in my day where I am completely alone<br />
in my coffin underground<br />
<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-43198724033129056642013-08-02T23:40:00.000-04:002013-08-02T23:40:13.112-04:00i guess my blog is me.sometimes i open up this blog and read through past entries and laugh. they are all so different. somehow, thought, when i read them, they all make sense together. they all tell the twisty windy stories that twirl around in my head. like puzzle pieces that don't make sense out of context.<br />
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i peruse others blogs and they are so consistent and so organized and just make sense. and mine? a gathering of words. a telling of tales. an expression of feeling.<br />
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and yet. to me. they weave the fabric that has made my life. in each one i remember that moment, that feeling, that voice. perhaps my blog is not so strange. perhaps it is just simply me. a me that i feel comfortable, and sometimes scared, to share. a me that wants to remember the moments well.<br />
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so i will keep telling the stories and noting the moments.<br />
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and i will probably remain all over the place for a long long time. Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-35340858091814741232013-08-02T13:35:00.003-04:002013-08-02T13:35:26.289-04:00warmsun breaks through the thick thick clouds and for one day it warms the land.<br />
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it falls on the skin and starts to burn but the feeling is so foreign that before you know it, a patch of red has formed.<br />
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it blinds the eyes but the eyes keep a steady gaze.<br />
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it envelops everything in hope.<br />
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and suddenly all the gray is forgotten and all the cold fades.<br />
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warmth prevails.<br />
<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-62107141897979874692013-07-31T15:45:00.002-04:002013-07-31T15:45:27.201-04:00my mommamy momma is one amazing woman. i realize this more and more the older i get and the more time i spend around her. <br />
i look back on my teen years and man, was i a b*%@!. i am just going to blame that on hormones and move on. <br />
we are similar in a lot of ways, my mom and i. i'm not saying this to draw some sort of parallel to the previous statement about my mom being amazing, but i say it to illustrate that our strong personalities clash at times. they used to though, more than now. we are both pretty stubborn in our own ways of doing things and that has made for some difficult moments. again, those teen years, geesh!<br />
about 7 years ago, my parents got asked to move overseas. first to Israel, where they lived for 5 years and now in Chile, where they reside. they left everything they knew, and mostly, their family and us two girls, and moved house completely. in a new location, new language, new food, new friends, new experiences. and i swear it's made them younger and even more open minded and, didn't think it was possible, even more awesome.<br />
these days i recognize mom in a different way, probably the way she has always been. she is so patient. she is so full of love, it bursts out of the sides of her wide smile and her joyful eyes. she is a servant. she gives and gives and gives with almost no thought to herself. and she is loved by so many. she takes such good care of me. in her home is one of the only places that i feel completely safe and completely taken care of.<br />
and she is so fearless. take learning Spanish, for example. she came to Chile knowing very little and every day she would go out and talk to neighbors, and stumble over words, and laugh at herself, and just try new things. today, the whole block knows her. "Hola" she chimes, as she walks down the street. they all look up and smile and come over to chat. and i'm so proud. she teaches my sister and i in everything she does what it means to care for others because she so beautifully cares for us.<br />
and she is so much fun. we stay up late watching movies, look at pictures together on facebook, play games, eat cake when we shouldn't, and share stories.<br />
she is the best. she is my friend now, not just my mom. <br />
but forever and always she will be someone who inspires my heart.<br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-71945404759185550312013-07-30T11:34:00.001-04:002013-07-30T11:34:12.138-04:00a good summerI picked the perfect summer plans and let me tell you why. I sublet my apartment for 6 weeks and left town. Not to galavant in a new an exotic country (which I undoubtedly love doing), not to experience adventure and newness and to loose myself in the summer months, but to be reconnected with the people I miss the most during the time I live in Brooklyn, away from my family. Of course I have my own kind of family in New York and I will love and cherish them always for the role they play. But I miss my mom and dad. I miss my sister and her family - those teeny tiny ones who steal my heart each time. I miss my close family and friends that I don't even need to try with. That I don't need to prove myself with, that I just can 'be' with. I needed down time. I needed to just have time to think and to feel and to love and to be. <br />
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And that's why it was perfect. It started by all the time with the children and the friends and the family...and I traveled and ate and laughed and saw things. And I now end it with a chunk of time down in the winter of the Southern Hemisphere just working and thinking and being and eating great simple, healthy food, and living a really, really low key life. I'm refueling. I'm re-energizing. <br />
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I'm proud of myself for this summer. Because it shows that I am listening to my heart and taking care of my body and nourishing my soul. I feel lucky for this time. I know many don't have it and I am thankful for it. It gives me the energy to do what I love doing every day. <br />
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No other reason for this post but to remind myself of that.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-72917191557905719962013-07-25T18:04:00.002-04:002013-07-25T18:04:40.896-04:00a little boy named Artin.<span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">my mother told me a story today that i had heard nothing of before. "something amazing happened in Iran last week," she said, "something history-making for the Baha'is and for Iran." </span><br />
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<i>there is a little 4 year old Baha'i boy in Iran, Artin. his grandfather, like many other Baha'is in Iran, was martyred over 20 years ago. a little over a year ago, Artin's mom, dad, and his uncle were all imprisoned because they were teaching higher education classes to the young Baha'is in Iran. since they are denied access to education. so Artin has been living with his grandmother, the wife of the man who was martyred many years ago, whose sons are now both in prison. Artin's mom and dad are in two different prisons, and he can go visit only on Sundays. so one Sunday he goes to see his mom, and one Sunday he goes to see his dad. he is four.</i></div>
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<i>a week and a half ago, Muhammad-i-NuriZad, a well known Muslim writer who has written many articles criticizing the clergy and the government of Iran on their policies and conduct, went to the home of Artin. he put him on a little chair and kissed his feet, and then went on to apologize on behalf of all the people of Iran to him and to all the Baha'i's for the persecution that they have suffered, and apologized for the fact that his parents are in prison for no reason and that he is now living without them. it was during Ramadan, but he couldn't fast that day, so he took some water and fruit from Artin's hands and said, "I want to tell my fellow believers that it's ok to eat out of the hands of the Baha'is" since they have been told not to, because of how dirty we are. (this is all so much more beautiful in Farsi obviously because of the poetic nature of the language and the way in which NuriZad writes, obviously).</i></div>
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<i>since this event, stories are coming in, one after the other, about what this man did. blogs, and news stories, and comments supporting him and condemning him. a lot of the people of Iran are outraged. to me, his bravery is so incredibly humbling. the iranian government is obviously upset. they have asked him to come to court to be tried. he said that his bags are packed and that he is ready for whatever comes. "I knew the repercussions of this." he said.</i></div>
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i hear this story and my heart aches. first for Artin, and then for the many many others like him, including my own cousins, who have had to live without family members because they believe in a faith that proclaims peace, unity, and the coming together of humanity. </div>
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and i also feel utmost gratitude for this man who has risked everything in order to speak out against injustice and speak UP for freedom and for the humanity that binds us all together, whether we like it or not. his voice, rings so much louder than mine would in this situation since i, myself am a Baha'i. the power of speaking up for the oppressed and what influence that can have. this image will forever be in my heart:<br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-23871850040770676262012-12-17T13:11:00.000-05:002012-12-17T13:11:33.676-05:00and just like that...A call came today telling us her cancer is back. They had removed it in both breasts a few months ago and we had thought it was fine, it was gone. <br />
<br />
But they didn't get it all. They must have missed part of it.<br />
<br />
And now she needs chemo.<br />
<br />
We were just sitting on the couch resting, watching stupid TV, and the call came with this new information.<br />
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And the tears came with it. And the sadness...because it's back. <br />
<br />
"We will all say prayers, we will keep her in our prayers."<br />
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It's all we can do, really.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-45857569544278002782012-12-16T17:16:00.001-05:002012-12-16T17:16:31.742-05:00unpluggedIt's been two and a half years since I turned off my email. Every day I check it. I leave it on at all hours and wait for that little "ding" sound the phone makes to let you know that something has come - something urgent - something needing me, now! <br />
<br />
I keep that little black phone near me all the time for fear that a big emergency will arise and I will not be the first to see it, respond to it, know about it. If I go more than 5 minutes without checking my phone I frantically search for it, certain that there will be many, many notifications. For what? Of what? I don't know.<br />
<br />
But for two and half years I have not disabled my work email. It's been attached to me wherever and whenever I go. But last week, I turned it off. I took it off my phone completely, if only for a little while... <br />
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And it was scary. <br />
<br />
The moment I did it I wondered - what if someone needs me? what if there is a question no one else can answer? what if there is an emergency? I thought through every scenario and in the end, just got too tired to think any more.<br />
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And you know what? It's been a week and a half without my work email, and the world has not stopped turning. Life has gone on just just just fine. And I guess it all makes you realize how indispensable we all really are. Not inconsequential, just indispensable.<br />
<br />
Perhaps it's our egos that make us believe that we are that needed and that we are wanted. Perhaps it's just our need to feel wanted. Perhaps it's our belief that if we control things then we don't have anyone to blame but ourselves if they go awry. <br />
<br />
I don't know, again - it's just too much thinking...<br />
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But this is the first time that I have been cut off from work completely and it's a strange, strange feeling...and I'll tell you one thing - it' gives a LOT of time for thinking about other things.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-21685228976851320212012-12-09T14:53:00.001-05:002012-12-09T14:53:26.553-05:00hammock and juice
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<span style="font-family: Times; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">Dad put up the hammock yesterday. The one
they bought in Peru. I'm pretty sure my sister, niece, and I wore the
other one out on our last visit. When I had energy - when I jumped and
laughed and moved about. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">It's a little different now. Slower. I
don't have the same energy. I sleep a lot. A lot. But that's what
they say I need to do. To get better.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">Mom and Dad just got a juicer. And Dad's
especially excited about it. I showed them a beet juice recipe that I
like and yesterday morning they were both in the kitchen measuring things out,
washing vegetables, and making that very same beet juice. This morning
Dad had made three different kinds of juice. Three glass cups, filled to
the rim, sat on the breakfast table when I came downstairs. "Just have
whichever one you feel like, I made them for you," dad says, resting a
hand on my shoulder. I drink the one he likes the best - I know this
because he has been speaking of the frozen strawberries in the freezer since I
arrived. And it's delicious. It gives me a bit of life.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">Later Mom gently guides me to the hammock,
"the sun is good for you," she says. I lie down and my legs
begin to burn from the sun so Mom brings over the sunscreen and puts in on my
legs. I am so tired I just lay my head back. The sun starts to
creep up, almost covering me completely. Mom brings a sheets, drapes it
over the hammock and blocks the intensity of the sun. I'm so grateful but
I don't have the energy to tell her how much. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br />
I don't think I even like tikka masala. I enjoy it every once in while, but will only seek it out maybe once a year. Weird cravings these days... No, not pregnant. <br />
<br />
I say this not to insult the entire cuisine of a region, but to illustrate how out of place things feel.<br />
It's the beginning of December, I'm supposed to be at work. 9-5. Or is it 7-7? Either way. <br />
<br />
But here I am. At the airport. At the restaurant dedicated to Grey Goose(?!) with extremely cheesy decor, inundated with announcements in French, sitting behind a guy that has "Death Racer" defined on the back of his shirt.<br />
<br />
It's life dictating for you. It's something else guiding you. Outside of your control.<br />
<br />
And somehow you are there. Like you have arrived and not sure what else is to come.<br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-7051757068596263932012-12-06T21:16:00.002-05:002012-12-06T21:16:24.642-05:00I don't even remember the last time I opened this. <br />
I read my last post and I have no idea who I am even talking about. <br />
<br />
It's been that long.<br />
<br />
Barely even recognize myself.<br />
<br />
I have to start somewhere.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-19655236135922183832012-09-26T18:55:00.002-04:002012-09-26T18:55:51.097-04:00freeWhen he is free he is really free. He writes, he calls, he uses kind words.<br />
When he is free he lets himself be himself. He watches attentively, speaks without error and always, almost always, smiles.<br />
When he is free.<br />
But that doesn't always happen. He doesn't always let himself be free. He sleeps less and works more. <br />
When he is free he is open to change, open to seeing, open to smiling. <br />
His heart feels happy. You can see it on his face. The creases above his eyebrows lessen, his mouth curls up, and his eyes shine.<br />
When he is free.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-66206188198091181042012-09-26T17:53:00.002-04:002012-09-26T17:53:56.558-04:00bAlAnCe
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-47753916537564345252012-08-04T20:25:00.001-04:002012-08-04T20:25:22.785-04:00i miss her.Sitting in front of me today was a young girl - maybe in her mid-twenties - situated next to her grandmother with her arm resting easily around her grandmother's shoulder. <br />
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My brain immediately flashed back to many, many similar and precious moments I had had with my own grandmother, sitting right next to her with my arm flung proudly around her tiny shoulders. And as I went back to those memories, the feeling I would feel in those moments, washed over me. <br />
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I felt good. Not just "good" in the generic sense of the word. But I felt pure. Like I was good, like things were good, like there was hope and kindness and goodness. It's because she embodied all of those things. She oozed goodness and kindness and love and humility. It surrounded her. And each time I was with her I felt it. <br />
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I miss her. So much.<br />
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(In this picture she is with my niece. This was taken only one month before she passed, on my last visit to see her. She was an angel.)Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-45547272741224660012012-08-04T09:56:00.001-04:002012-08-04T09:56:35.881-04:00the NYC metro<br />
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The little screen tells you when the next train is coming your way so you don't have to stand there wondering how long you'll have to brave the sauna-esque stench of the underground. <br />
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It's brightly lit. It feels like broad day-light under there. Like a pleasant underground world, not home to 8 million rats and the pee of the drunk. <br />
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And, best of all, there are escalators. A lot of them. Unlike the 5 minute climbs from the pits of hell.<br />
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I'm just wondering. Why?Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-89871519549180720402012-08-03T16:27:00.000-04:002012-08-03T16:27:46.254-04:00Luigi the Magician from Italy<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIz9SD-afi9kqB9efAMBRM2jgq0uyXSgm78uu64PI3VGmR6a_RZOf703ijxyQb4Fqz4eGl5z2UYeuNC7gXUTJVWJFhOczUnabXILhmNcVsK3OEskDkwTgipiN8ZmoT2Fs8vO4VBH-zn5g/s1600/luigi.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIz9SD-afi9kqB9efAMBRM2jgq0uyXSgm78uu64PI3VGmR6a_RZOf703ijxyQb4Fqz4eGl5z2UYeuNC7gXUTJVWJFhOczUnabXILhmNcVsK3OEskDkwTgipiN8ZmoT2Fs8vO4VBH-zn5g/s320/luigi.jpg" width="240" /></a>Today I met Luigi from Italy who just happens to be a magician. He barely speaks English and I know no Italian, and surprisingly, we could manage some semblance of a conversation.<br />
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Luigi from Italy is quiet. He won't say much unless he is asked a question. He will smile politely and maybe look up from his meal every once in a while, but for the most part, he just listens and sits contently. <br />
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He traveled here with two sisters from his town of Torino, they help to translate for him when they can, and when he wishes to speak.<br />
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Today, over lunch, Luigi from Italy decided to tell me something. That he is a magician. A real one.<br />
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Less than 30 seconds later he had pulled a Euro coin out of thin air and was placing it back somewhere in the air a few minutes later. I was in shock. A real magician. <br />
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The last few days I have realized that we all have a different story to tell. Like Laura, who I met at the bus-stop in Madrid who moved to Spain from Mexico to study and has now made it her home, although she doesn't know for how long. Or Susaan who grew up in Iran and now lives in Portugal with her family. Or Nicholas, a French-man who was just transferred to Dublin to start a job that he has no idea how to do, or so he claims. Each a different story, each a different perspective, each bringing something new to the table. And sitting and listening to these stories, it makes you more human. It makes you humble and it makes you realize that we all are in this great big world just trying to make it and trying to be grateful and trying to be good.<br />
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It's been a really humbling few days. Kind. And humbling. And I feel more human.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-5651549929776741162012-08-02T19:18:00.003-04:002012-08-02T19:18:45.016-04:00this life style.I seem to quite like this Spanish European lifestyle.<br />
Dinner is after 8pm, unequivocally. Things start at 9pm and go well into midnight. Well.<br />
Kids are up, grandparents are up, and everyone is still smiling.<br />
Time and energy is given to relaxation. Don't forget the pool. Make sure you have a coffee. Just go take a nap.<br />
It's all OK. <br />
You're given permission to enjoy life. You're not guilted when you do. It's just norm.<br />
I seem to quite like this lifestyle.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-36385422181914462572012-08-02T19:02:00.001-04:002012-08-02T19:02:26.551-04:00Magical Madrid<br />
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I planned a last minute trip to Portugal, via an hour connection in Madrid.<span> </span>As all JFK travelers know, no flight is truly ever on time, due to “weather conditions”.<span> </span>With 40 minutes between flights, I sprinted across the Madrid airport trying to get to a gate that literally took an hour to get to…down the long, long corridors, through security (with weird plastic socks on my feet – don’t ask), waiting for a bus to the terminal which only comes every 20 minutes, watching the screen as my flight totally disappears….it’s gone.</div>
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I will not get into the details of the next few hours because it was a lot of waiting, walking between terminals, waiting, waiting, walking, walking…and finally I decided to have Delta airlines put me up in a hotel for the night and on the same flight the following morning.<span> </span>To me, this beat waiting in the airport all day for an evening flight and I could, instead, actually enjoy Madrid.<span> </span></div>
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I was now on Delta’s dollar – they gave me a (really nice) hotel to stay in, all my meals paid for (which included 3 course meals as penne carbonara as an appetizer), and a shuttle to and from the airport.<span> </span>Well the least I could do is spend 3 Euros and go into the city to explore.<span> </span>After a good nap that lasted until 7pm (darn jet-lag!) I found myself in this magical city of Madrid.<span> </span>I had received a good ‘ol map from the hotel receptionist of places I should see, and I set out from my Metro stop – wandering.<span> </span></div>
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The last time I was in Spain, it was pre-New York City life.<span> </span>This was a totally different experience.<span> </span>The simple nuances of urban life weren’t a challenge, but a norm.<span> </span>It took away the stumbling blocks of trains and buses and crowds and noise and waiting and walking.<span> </span>And it gave way to just simply enjoying.<span> </span>Not having a single expectation, I would turn corners and completely gasp in awe at the beauty before me.<span> </span>I can’t wait to upload the photos from the SLR on to <a href="http://www.sahbarohani.tumblr.com/">www.sahbarohani.tumblr.com</a> because it was a true joy to take those shots.<span> </span>Everything about Madrid surprised me.<span> </span>The kindness of the people, the easiness of the commuting, the intricacies of the architecture, the openness of the plazas, and the classy and laid-back nature of everyone I saw.<span> </span><br />
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The last location circled on my map was the Catedral. I walked up and was literally blown away.<span> </span>I stood in the immense courtyard at dusk, when the sky was blue blue, and the air had a perfect combination of dew and crisp.<span> </span>I took a really slow breath in and released.<span> </span>It was an arrival of sorts.<span> </span>A right of passage.<span> </span>I stood there just overwhelmed with gratitude.<span> </span>How lucky.<span> </span>I say that a lot, but I also tend to forget it a lot, unfortunately.<span> </span>But how lucky.<span> </span>If you had asked me in June if I would be breathing in Spanish air on a cool summer night, I’d have declared a definite no.<span> </span>But, you know, things happen all the time that we don’t expect.<span> </span>We have just to believe and to take that first step.</div>
</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-8613342928331705372012-07-27T00:33:00.000-04:002012-07-27T00:33:22.410-04:00fighting routine.We live in a City that is constantly demanding of us. Ride the subway, walk to work, work, lunch break (if you're lucky), walk back from work, ride the subway, get home, make dinner, meet friends for dinner, eat dinner, evening routine, sleep, start again. Evening routine... Routine. <br />
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It's a funny thing this routine because, although we desperately need it in order to stay organized, sane, and "accomplished," it can often take away our appreciation for life. <br />
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In his book Aleph, Paulo Coehlo wrote:<br />
I had been allowing myself to be slowly poisoned by routine; showers were merely a matter of washing my skin clean, meals were for feeding my body, and the sole purpose of walks was to avoid heart problems in the future.<br />
Now things are changing, imperceptibly, but they are changing. Meals are times when I can venerate the presence and the teachings of friends, walks are once again meditations on the present moment, and the sound of water in my ears silences my thoughts, calms me, and makes me relearn that it is these small daily gestures that brings us closer to God, as long as I am able to give each gesture the value it deserves. <br />
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Do we value, even in the small things, that which makes us grateful? <br />
Do we take the time to perceive things that seem so mundane to the untrained eye?<br />
What do we have to do to start <i>changing</i> our routine?<br />
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Those small things make us alive.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-42787561022135645272012-07-26T11:42:00.000-04:002012-07-26T11:42:57.667-04:00an amazing mom.<i>Words are tears that have been written down. Tears are words that need to be shed. Without them, joy loses all its brilliance and sadness has no end. Thank you, then, for your tears. - Paulo Coehlo</i><br />
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Of the tears I shed this summer, the most meaningful were those shared with my sister, as I bid her farewell.<br />
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She carefully maneuvered herself out of the car so as not to hit her 8 month pregnant belly on the steering wheel. She left the door ajar so that my sleeping niece wouldn't be awakened by the sound of the slamming door. She came around to the back to "help" me with my luggage, but really just to say good-bye.<br />
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"She's a good girl, you know?" I said, as I peered into her car seat through the back window. Her sleeping face angelic. <br />
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"Yah, I know."<br />
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I didn't know how to say the next few words without the tears eating my words. But I knew I had to.<br />
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"It's because of you. You're...you're a good mom."<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqNn-eMkj6-Dm53jB-AvahmLEV-HeQ-mLGtj9JArPyCw6GGsSPG0nKW5mYqM8GUwMJ_WfWj3Z-evlLB4_FxDktu8thNjGoM_CA_DCpI7f3V136C0GvpIYVVsMiUKp1qTJTV8pAYDiXkxs/s1600/IMG_5990.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqNn-eMkj6-Dm53jB-AvahmLEV-HeQ-mLGtj9JArPyCw6GGsSPG0nKW5mYqM8GUwMJ_WfWj3Z-evlLB4_FxDktu8thNjGoM_CA_DCpI7f3V136C0GvpIYVVsMiUKp1qTJTV8pAYDiXkxs/s320/IMG_5990.JPG" width="320" /></a>She looks away, trying not to meet my eyes with hers. Knowing that if she does, the tears will not hold back and will stay sitting neatly on her eyelids. <br />
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"You're an amazing mom. She has amazing parents. It's because of you two."<br />
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I pulled my little sister into my arms and we both cried. <br />
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I wish we said these things more often.<br />
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<i>Thank you, then, for your tears.</i>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-17615929882910749592012-07-25T23:29:00.003-04:002012-07-25T23:30:13.322-04:00my own spaceWhen I used to dream of living alone I had these romanticized pictures of me, coming home to my very clean apartment, hanging my key up in the right place, placing my shoes where they belong, listening to classical music and reading a book for hours. I knew my place would be where I did the things that made me feel calm, at peace, and happy.<br />
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And then I moved. <br />
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It was a whirlwind of attempting to build furniture, spending hours trying to get my wireless hooked up before caving and calling in for help, dusty shelves, clothes on the floor, setting up my AC, setting up my AC again, figuring out how to make my AC quieter, fitting all my things into small nooks and crannies so they fit, lamenting the end of natural sunlight, and realizing that my kitchen will be where I indeed apply my make up because the bathroom is just too small.<br />
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But then tonight, was magical. I came home exhausted and in a grouchy mood. I'll get a massage (always my "go-to"), I thought. It's right in my neighborhood, a block away - so I did.<br />
I came home, ate some left overs, glanced at my arts and crafts box, and decided tonight was going to be the night I would make my dreams come true.<br />
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I cleared everything away, put on really calming music (as opposed to GLEEK on TV as background noise), and sat down on my rug with a bunch of materials. I worked away, enjoying my space, filling it with positivity and kindness. I picked up a watercolor brush and then noticed the ever terrifyingly goofy smile that had spread across my face. A content smile. A smile that made me laugh. <br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixxFM-AlkIZf48bcV-eIjC2tvMeD04qVr10Eq0H1gxklca61okqE7KUDGBOAqaNG75b-chbHgjyCwXXCv6l28y0SysSk-spcN2xclyMWpsTJyflV0Yia0IEB_nq_QigCD_Y4spBV10wR4/s1600/IMG_5460.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixxFM-AlkIZf48bcV-eIjC2tvMeD04qVr10Eq0H1gxklca61okqE7KUDGBOAqaNG75b-chbHgjyCwXXCv6l28y0SysSk-spcN2xclyMWpsTJyflV0Yia0IEB_nq_QigCD_Y4spBV10wR4/s320/IMG_5460.JPG" width="320" /></a>I finished my piece, cleaned up, crawled into bed, and began to blog. This very blog right here in fact. And all of a sudden I have realized - this is all I ever wanted when I dreamed of living alone. A space that I can fill with my things, in my way, to do the things that I want to do...<br />
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Until I am ready to share again, I'm going to enjoy this teeny box I have carved out of New York City.<br />
<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-40347017856409492232012-07-25T17:45:00.001-04:002012-07-25T17:45:29.966-04:00When?How do people make choices in their lives?<br />
Do circumstances usually lead you somewhere or do you pick up and move and make a bold, bold choice because your heart feels like it's the right thing to do.<br />
I moved for school, for a job, for a boy, to volunteer, to be involved. I moved because something drew me there. Not because I realized what it is I want, what it is that makes me happy, and moved to make that reality.<br />
How do you know when you are just done with a place? When it is just time to move on because you have outgrown it and you know that the things that make you happy are no longer there? How do you know when the risk is enough? How do you know when what your losing is worth it? How do you know?<br />
<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3284799825328056260.post-2945656801194002432012-07-25T17:04:00.000-04:002012-07-25T17:04:40.796-04:00forgiving.Forgiveness is a salve, they say. Forgiveness helps to heal the pain and allows you to grow and mature and move forward. But what if you feel like you are the one that needs the apology? What if you feel like, in order to move forward, you need not be the one to make the first move?<br />
You can't control another person's movement. You can't force someone to feel remorse, to come to you, to apologize, to try and mend. It's not your place. So then how do you forgive? <br />
How do you move past when every memory forces anger and pain?<br />
How do you stop yourself from being stuck. Because the only one hurting is you. In the end, it is your well-being that is compromised. In the end it is you who suffers.<br />
But yet you have to forgive. You have to do whatever you need to do to forgive and move past. Because holding on only hurts you and no one else. Remembering only makes you the victim. And being the victim stifles your movement forward.<br />
Somehow you must get to a place where you can truly forgive. Mainly it's forgiving your own self. And healing from the emotions that haunt.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1